There’s something about friendship.
It’s powerful, meaningful and causes more emotions than almost anything else.
Unlike most things in this world though, it’s not all that flawed. Short term friendships come and go, that’s a fact. But if you can keep a friendship going for 4 years, 7 years or even 14 years (putting that into perspective, it’s more than 77% of your life so far) then it must have gone through so much. The question would be, if it’s lasted so long, would you really want to go out of your way to jeopardise its future?? If it’s lasted so long, no matter what happened, you’d be willing to at least talk it out face to face and try and work out the problem that did indeed threaten it lasting for a lifetime. At 14 years, it would have lasted for some of the more trialling times of your life and it would be very likely indeed to last the lifetime. And these friendships are very hard to come by.
Friendships should not be thrown away over one reason. Ever. However good the reason was at the time, it won’t stand. I know, big bust-ups never really last more than a month or so, if the friendship is good and true, isn’t that right Chris?
Friendships never really end, they always continue for many more years than you recognise that they do, as our memories are long and vast, so take into compass every single friend you’ve had, and that remains.
We are sociable people, this too is a fact. And the more friends you have, the richer a person you are. Arguments will happen – we are only human – but what will separate you from everyone else is remaining calm, not skipping to conclusions and approaching the situation in a mature and calculated way. Big arguments get you nowhere, especially if you come to rash conclusions during one.
So I urge you all to keep the friendships you have. They are amicable things. And the good friends you have, whatever the argument, will stay by you even if all looks lost. They are trying their best to work things out in their own way, and you’ve got to help them by talking things over with them. Even if it seems like they’re against you, you’re probably wrong. So take a few deep breaths and approach them, face to face, eye to eye, voice to voice and talk it out. Don’t get angry, don’t let them push you around, but make sure that the friendship stays and grows to take on a new, eve stronger form than it had before.
I don’t know about you, but the friends I have now I want to keep for some time yet and combine them with the new ones I will make, not lose and replace them. You need to live life to the full, and the only way to do such a thing is to have as many friends as you can keep. So, keep your friends and live this life like it’s your last – mainly because it is.
Time is precious, as are friends. Don't waste either!